Electric pressure cookers — like the Instant Pot — rose to cult status with their ability to cut conventional cooking times by as much as 75 percent. You no longer have to tend a pot of beans on the stovetop all day long, because the Instant Pot is here to cook them with just a few minutes of high pressure.

The Instant Pot does well with breakfast staples and speedy dinners, but where it really shines is during weekly meal prep. Sure, it cooks a pot of beans well, but it also cooks grains, whole chickens, large hunks of pork, and even whole spaghetti squash at great speed. Plus, cooking these things in the Instant Pot frees up the oven and stovetop for other cooking chores.

Here’s how to utilize the Instant Pot for smarter big batch meal prep.

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I’m a big proponent of pasta, and I believe it can be part of a well-balanced diet if it’s treated the right way. My go-to move is loading pasta up with things like fresh seasonal ingredients, lots of colorful vegetables, and some lean protein. These 10 feel-good recipes perfectly strike that balance.

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Check out our Patreon page: https://www.patreon.com/teded View full lesson: https://ed.ted.com/lessons/what-if-cracks-in-concrete-could-fix-themselves-congrui-jin Concrete is the most widely used construction material in the world. It can be found in swathes of city pavements, bridges that span vast rivers and the tallest skyscrapers on earth. But it does have a weakness: it’s prone to catastrophic cracking that has immense financial and environmental impact. What if we could avoid that problem? Congrui Jin explores how to create a more resilient concrete. Lesson by Congrui Jin, directed by Aeon Production. Thank you so much to our patrons for your support! Without you this video would not be possible! Emma Moyse, Fahad Nasser Chowdhury, Marin Kovachev, Roman Pinchuk, Daniel Huerga, Maria Lerchbaumer, Edgar Campos Barrachina, Dianne Palomar, The Brock, Curtis Light, Ernest Chow, Liana Switzer, Maija Chapman, Pamela Harrison, Mighterbump , Beatriz Inácio, Robert Hargis, Mircea Sîrbu, Irindany Sandoval, William Bravante, Elizabeth Parker, Sai Krishna Koyoda, Samuel Barbas, Maxwell Ingram, Victoria Soler-Roig, Abdulmateen Aderinto, Pavel Maksimov, Barbara Younker, Cyrus Garay, Yvette Mocete, Mike Azarkman, Patricia Alves Panagides, William Biersdorf, Michael Aquilina, Vinamr , FireWolfLasers, Kshitij Shah, Mohammad Said, Teach Me Diné – Navajo Language, Victoria Veretilo, Rebecca Reineke, Kyanta Yap, Brandon Thomas, Lewis Westbury, Ojas Kapoor, Mirzat Turap, Jaime Arriola, Emilia Alvarado, Javid Gozalov and Philipp Hiestand.From: TED-Ed

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Check out our Patreon page: https://www.patreon.com/teded View full lesson: https://ed.ted.com/lessons/why-can-t-some-birds-fly-gillian-gibb Though the common ancestor of all modern birds could fly, many different bird species have independently lost their flight. Flight can have incredible benefits, especially for escaping predators, hunting and traveling long distances. But it also has high costs: consuming huge amounts of energy and limiting body size and weight. Gillian Gibb explores what makes birds give up the power of flight. Lesson by Gillian Gibb, directed by Anton Bogaty. Thank you so much to our patrons for your support! Without you this video would not be possible! Paul Beard, Deepak Iyer, Markus Goldhacker, Mihai Sandu, Keven Webb, Hendrik Mueller, Maurice Castonguay, Kristiyan Bonev, Maryam Dadkhah, Joshua Wasniewski, Michał Friedrich, Arlene Spiegelman, Doug Henry, Alick Au, denison martins fernandes, Daniel Nester, Richard A Berkley, Benjamin Chan, Dee Wei, Abdallah Absi, Denise A Pitts, Pi Guanghui, Doris, Kurt Almendras, Raymond Lee, Nicolas Silva, Melvin Williams, Tirath Singh Pandher, Terry Minion, Mauricio Basso, Jamesbo87, Karlee Finch, Chumi Ogbonna, Barthélémy Michalon, Lefty McGoo, Anonymous, Chris Thompson, Derek Drescher, Karisa Caudill, Christina Salvatore, Brady Jones, Todd Gross, Alexis Hevia, Heidi Stolt, Robert Seik, Coenraad Keuning, Charles A Hershberger, Laura Cameron Keith, Max Ngomane and Rafael Kato.From: TED-Ed

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Check out our Patreon page: https://www.patreon.com/teded View full lesson: https://ed.ted.com/lessons/the-princess-who-rewrote-history-leonora-neville Anna Komnene, daughter of Byzantine emperor Alexios, spent the last decade of her life creating a 500-page history of her father’s reign called “The Alexiad.” As a princess writing about her own family, she had to balance her loyalty to her kin with her obligation to portray events accurately. Leonora Neville investigates this epic historical narrative. Lesson by Leonora Neville, directed by Els Decaluwe. Thank you so much to our patrons for your support! Without you this video would not be possible! Jen O’Hogan, Renu Balak, JY Kang, Anastasiia, Madee Lo, Arpita Singh, Karl Laius, Barbarossa , Tu-Anh Nguyen, Guy Hardy, Sebastiaan Vleugels, Joel Alfonso, Derya Goekcay, Brandy Sarver, Jose Arcadio Valdes Franco, Akinola Emmanuel, igor romanenko, Dian Atamyanov, Abhishek Bansal, Austin Randall, Jennifer Kurkoski, phkphk12321, Arlene Weston, Mehmet Yusuf Ertekin, Ten Cha, Les Howard, Kevin O’Leary, Francisco Leos, Robert Patrick, Jorge, Marcus Appelbaum, Alan Wilder, Amin Talaei, Mohamed Elsayed, Angel Pantoja, Eimann P. Evarola, Claire Ousey, Carlos H. Costa, Tariq Keblaoui, Bela Namyslik, Nick Johnson, Won Jang, Johnnie Graham, Junjie Huang, Harshita Jagdish Sahijwani, Amber Alexander, Yelena Baykova, Laurence McMillan, John C. Vesey and Karmi Nguyen.From: TED-Ed

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One of the most unproductive tendencies we have as parents is our rush to judgment. For example, we might assess and designate certain toddlers as bullies and others as fearful or shy. Their behavior with peers or siblings is stealing, hoarding, or too bossy. They’re not playing nicely. Their crying and tantrums are manipulative.  They are “threenagers,” brats, and so on.
The tendency to quickly judge and label seems to be on the rise recently (from this reporter’s POV), which makes sense considering the tsunami of information that inundates us daily. We have busier, more cluttered, rushed lives, less time for daydreaming and pondering, and shorter attention spans. We’re inclined to want to cut to the chase and move on.
Opening our minds and hearts to young children and being curious explorers can seem to take too much effort, because it also requires us to become more self-aware. Maybe I’m judging my daughter’s assertiveness as negative because my parents shamed me for this very thing? Maybe my parents were wrong to do that? Maybe I’m really okay, and my daughter is, too?
The biggest problem with our hasty judgments (or what psychologist Carol Dweck termed “fixed mindsets”) is that they slam the door on opportunities to be of real help to our children or ourselves. The labels we apply to certain behaviors blind us to the causes of that behavior and what it is communicating. This creates distance and even dislike of our children (which can be hard to overcome), instead of understanding, empathy, and positive growth, all of which deepen our parent-child bonds.
There is always a reason children feel and behave the way they do. When our child’s behavior upsets, annoys or baffles us… what if, instead of judging, then closing the book and reacting out of that fixed mindset, we took the time to observe and listen? What if we dared to release ourselves to an open, uncomfortable, unfinished space of not knowing?
Amber did all of that, and this happened:
Hi Janet,
Firstly I would like to say thank you for your wealth of knowledge in relation to child development. I have a one-year-old and a three-year-old and was struggling with certain behaviours. I visited a psychologist to help me learn how to cope with all the big emotions in my house. She referred me to your podcast, and I have not looked back. I look forward to driving home from work so I can listen to your advice, and especially the pep talk at the end which sets me up for a good day the next morning.
I am writing to thank you for the post on “fake crying” and wanted to let you know that you are exactly right. I have had a personal experience of this with my first child.
I was expecting our second child (35 weeks pregnant), moved house, transitioned to a bed, AND changed child care centres — a very hectic time in a two-year-old’s life. My daughter went from loving her previous child care centre to crying as soon as she realized she was going to the new Kindy that day. She would scream and the teachers would have to pry her off me.
The teachers would say, “Cut that out. Let Mum go and let’s go outside and play. Stop being silly… Oh, she is doing it again. I thought she would be too old for this.”
I was at a loss of what to do, and everyone kept saying it’s normal when you change child care centres. We would pick her up in the afternoon, and she would be soooo tired and sad. I recognized that in all the photos from the school, she seemed to be by herself and clinging onto a security blanket (she never even attached to a security blanket in the past, we just sent one as that is what we were told to do). At dinner, she wouldn’t even talk.
I requested a meeting with the centre director who informed me that my child had the worst separation anxiety she had ever seen but offered no guidance. My daughter had never had a problem with separation before and, if anything, we described her as a vivacious, outgoing toddler. She had also started to point at us and say quite aggressively, “You stop that right now, you hear;” and “This is all your fault that the babies are awake.”
Once the baby had arrived and was a month old, we ended up pulling her out of the centre and changed her to another, where she settled in immediately and went back to our bubbly happy girl.
A month or so later, I drove past the old centre and she pointed and said, “I don’t want to go there, Mummy.” When I asked why, she said, “Because when your eyes rain you have to sit outside with no one.” All I can assume is that my child was scared, and her way of showing that was by crying. She must have been isolated from the group as punishment.
I learned a valuable lesson from that experience — to listen to my children’s emotions – and I wanted to share that with you as I read your blog and know some people wouldn’t agree with what you said (in your post “Fake Crying” or whatever). I agree first-hand with everything you have stated and thank you again for supporting all of us Mums.
With Kind Regards,
Thank you so much, Amber, for allowing me to share your story!
I share more about understanding and addressing our children’s behaviors in my book, No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame.
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In this episode: Janet responds to the parent of 8-month-old twins who says they are both very dependent on her, and she gets overwhelmed by her babies “complaining and crying at the same time.” Though she tries to respectfully acknowledge each twin, she worries that she isn’t being successful. The insight and advice Janet offers apply to all family situations, no matter how many children a parent is caring for.

Hi, this is Janet Lansbury, welcome to Unruffled. Today I’m going to be talking a bit about some ideas for raising twins, and these ideas actually apply to all parents, and I believe are helpful thoughts in terms of taking care of single children, siblings that are of different ages, and all aspects of parenting.
Here’s the note I received:
“I was wondering if you could do a podcast for those parents with twins or more. I try to respectfully parent, but find it so difficult with two babies. They’re both eight months now, and both so dependent on me, which is fine, I just get overwhelmed. How would you handle two babies complaining or crying at the same time? Especially when across the room, as I’m getting one ready for lunch or a diaper change, the other is crying. I try to acknowledge her, but not sure if she gets it because I can’t make eye contact. If you have any advice for multiples, I would really appreciate it. Thanks.”
Okay, so the reason I haven’t chosen to do a podcast, or even a website article about twins, is that I like to share things that will make lives easier for as many parents as possible. But when I realized that parenting twins can actually jumpstart us all into understanding our role as respectful parents, I thought this might be really helpful, because these are ideas that apply to parenting in general.
So what can raising twins teach us all about parenting? One, that (1) babies are aware, capable people and communicators. Alison Gopnik‘s studies show, and I believe she even states it this way, that babies are more aware than we are. They have what she refers to as a lantern type of attention that’s shining light, that’s taking in everything in their environment, as opposed to us as adults. We’ve learned to have a spotlight type of attention. So, they don’t miss the things that we often miss.
And so, the first thing I want to say to this parent in particular is that across the room her baby can be communicated with through this mother’s voice, through her verbal communication, and they can even feel the vibrations of mood from across the room. That’s how hyper aware infants are, and because they are absorbing everything, they learn so much, and develop so much in these first years.
That’s also the reason they get very easily overstimulated. You can imagine… We’re able to tune certain things out, babies can’t.
We have to be careful of overwhelming them, and allowing them to absorb all the stimulation that they can’t release except by crying. That can keep them awake when they actually need to sleep. It can make it harder for them to eat.
So, to answer this parent’s question, how would you handle two babies complaining or crying at the same time, especially when across the room, as I’m getting one ready for lunch or a diaper change and the other is crying?
Well, first of all, I would understand that it’s safe for me to care for one child while the other child is waiting, and that that baby’s doing what the baby’s supposed to be doing, which is communicating, signaling that they want attention as well. But that very seldom is an emergency that needs to make us frantic, or drop everything to run over there and make sure that baby’s okay.
And why is that important? Because our frantic energy is going to be felt by both children, even the one on the other side of the room, but especially the one that we’re right next to, and our emotions will affect our child. They’re looking to us to be the leaders, to let them know that they’re safe, that they can depend on us, and it’s discomforting to have adults that are anxious around them.
And one could ask, well, how do I stop being anxious? We stop being anxious by perceiving, again, babies as capable communicators, and that these situations are not urgent. It’s okay for babies to be crying without us immediately taking it away.
So, the second point that I believe helps us all, and also specifically refers to twins, is that (2) it’s not our job to prevent babies from crying, or to make the crying go away. It is our job to respond to crying. Responding can be, “Wow, I hear you over there. Sounds like you want me, too. I’m sorry, it’s hard to wait, isn’t it?” Letting that baby know that I hear her, and I’m actually wanting to encourage that communication.
And I realize it is very, very challenging because, cries, nature designs them to stir us, to make us jump into action. That’s how babies survive, they learn how to make that sound that will let us know that they’re there.
So this mom says, “I try to acknowledge her, but I’m not sure if she gets it, because I can’t make eye contact.”
Believe in her, she gets it, and that doesn’t mean that she’ll suddenly stop. She might need to keep telling you that. But for the bigger picture of the sense of security that both your children feel, it’s better to hold your own and not allow yourself to be pulled into the sound of that cry in a frantic way.
And this holds true, I believe, throughout the years with children, that we can get sucked into their pace, and their demands, whether it’s a whine, whether it’s a really impatient child interrupting us, or an angry child, or an upset child. If we get sucked into our child’s feelings there, and their pace, it’s going to be tougher for everybody, because it’s going to be exhausting for us. We’re going to be more likely to lose our temper and get frustrated, because we’re getting pulled into these immature people’s feelings, and their ups and downs. They’re not going to feel that we’re that stable leader that they need.
So, we do play a part in these behaviors that children have, and their sense of comfort. The less comfortable they are, the more they’re going to be unraveling, whether it’s a baby crying, a toddler melting down or whining, or an older child being tense and impatient with us and demanding.
And that also means that we have power here to work on how we’re perceiving our children, and our role with them. (3) We have to hold our own pace with children as confident leaders. It will be easier for you as a parent, it will be easier for your child, and it will actually make us happier parents as well. It’s not detaching, really, it’s just feeling yourself as separate from that other person and their feelings.
This works with adults, too. When people behave in ways that are uncomfortable for us, it’s their feelings that are being expressed there. It really has very little to do with us.
And the fourth point I wanted to make is very relevant to parents of twins, and will help all of us, especially if we have more than one child, and that is we (4) can’t please everyone all of the time.
And all these points are interconnected, by the way, obviously, as you’re noticing.
We can’t please everyone and, really, it isn’t our job to please anyone. Our job is to be responsive, and accept, and ideally even understand their feelings no matter how unreasonable they are, and the behaviors that come out of those feelings, but it’s not our job to make the feelings “better.” Because the best scenario is they get to express it, not that they stop expressing it.
So, the wonderful thing about parents of twins, and I’ve noticed this with the parents that I’ve worked with that have twins, is that they get to learn straight off the bat that they can’t please everybody. There are going to be a lot of instances where they’re not pleasing both their children, and that’s okay. By pleasing, I mean that neither one is expressing a discomfort.
I use an expression sometimes, let the plates drop. It’s okay. We can feel empowered by the scientifically proven truth that our baby is aware, particularly if we’ve been using language from the beginning, and verbalizing the things that we do with them, all the details. I’m going to pick you up now, and now we’re going to go over here, and it’s bed time, I’m going to bring you into your sleeping place, and now I’m going to help you get your pants on. Can you lift your foot up a little? Can you put it through this hole?” All of those things build the communication that allow a baby to understand when we say, “Oh, I hear you, I’ll be there as soon as I can. I hear you, my darling.”
And it will be proven to us that our babies are understanding, because sometimes that baby will stop crying, because they feel heard, and they feel acknowledged. We got their message, so they don’t have to keep giving us that.
I have lots and lots of parents sharing stories with me all the time that are so eye opening, and they never cease to amaze me. This is a leap of faith that we have to take, and it’s not what everybody’s doing. It’s not what the majority of people are doing. We have to believe. We have to believe that is a person. No, they’re not talking, and they won’t for quite a while, but communicating matters, they’re aware, and they are starting to understand. They are sensing our intention.
So, in terms of the specifics that this parent shared about her twins, she says they’re both eight months now and both so dependent on me. Yes, babies are dependent on us. Young children are very dependent on us, but I’m wondering if there might be some dependencies here that the parent is unwittingly creating herself, or encouraging, because that can happen if we are reactive to the sounds that babies make, their communication, because it sounds unhappy to us and we want to make them happy. We have a sense of urgency when we’re helping one and the other is crying.
Let’s say we have one child and we’re doing something on the stove, or we’re finishing up in the bathroom, and we hear our baby crying. If we can finish what we’re doing, maybe verbally acknowledging, “Oh wow, hey, I hear you. I’ll be there as soon as I can, just finishing up here,” and then we’re not running in, all of that matters to a baby, because the baby will feel the difference.
If we take it on as our role to stop their crying, babies will start to feel like it’s not safe for me to express anything that’s not just a smile, or a laugh, or happiness. I need my parent to come make that go away. That’s a dependency that we don’t want to create.
And I wish I had more specifics here from this parent so that I could speak to where she feels that they’re so dependent. Yes, they’re dependent for food. They’re dependent on us to keep them clean, bathed, and diapered. They’re dependent on us helping them to their comfy place to sleep.
And they’re dependent on us for one other thing, which is going to be my fifth point I want to make that applies to all parents, all kinds of situations, multiples, single children, siblings, and that is attention. (5) Full attention matters. And that directly applies to this parent’s situation because she starts out saying, “How would you handle two babies complaining or crying at the same time?”
So with twins, and with siblings of different ages, there are going to be times when you divide your attention, feedings and meal times will be like that, and that will maybe work better for the parent that if she’s breastfeeding, that both babies are breastfeeding at the same time. Or maybe it won’t, maybe it works better for that parent to do them one by one.
But when they start eating food, they will likely sit together, and she will give both of them her full attention. She’s not going to be on her phone, or trying to even eat her own meal. Ideally, she won’t even be thinking about all the other things she’s going to do as soon as they’re done. When they go to sleep I’m going to go call my mother, and those kinds of things. She will be able to clear that space, these little windows of space, to be with her children.
But then there will also be times when it’s one on one, the diaper change, bathing that particular child. Maybe they’re both in the bath together, but now she’s taking the time to bathe that one child, wash that child’s hair. And the other child might be piping up at that time, and you just acknowledge and you allow that to be, because you understand that full attention matters.
When they’re both complaining or crying at the same time, we have to prioritize. Okay, who do I think needs me more at this moment? I’m going to help this one, and then I’m going to help that one. Depending on what they’re crying about, or if she even knows why they’re crying, she’s going to explore with each one. Let’s say she doesn’t know…  “I hear you. Hmm, I’m wondering what you need. It seems like you’re saying that you’re getting too tired.” And meanwhile, we’re saying to that other one, “I hear you, too. You want something, too. Just give me a moment here, and I’m going to be right with you.”
So we enter into a conversation with each one. It’s not about them understanding every word, and that’s why it’s so important not to just say words, by the way, but to really have that intention, that this guy needs something, and I really want to help you. First I have to do this, but I hear you. I hear you. I’m not trying to make the crying go away. I’m accepting that I’m in this situation and I have to hold my own.
So, those are the five points:

Babies are aware and capable people
It’s not our job to prevent babies from crying or communicating, our job is to respond rather than be reactive.
We have to hold our own pace as confident leaders.
We won’t please everyone all the time. (So freeing to know that, isn’t it?)
Full attention matters.

I really hope some of that helps, and again, these ideas apply to all of us, and they’ve definitely helped me with my children.
For more, you can find both of my books available on audio at Audible, Elevating Child Care and No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame. You can get both audio books for free with a 30-day trial membership by using the link in the liner notes of this podcast. You can also get them in paperback at Amazon and an ebook at Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and Apple.com.
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